This sums up my/our place in life at the moment. It is such an iconic and well-known scene from a movie that...well...came out while I was in high school. It was also a movie that actually allowed me to connect to my parents in a better way. My girlfriend at the time made me see it several times (and yes, we could've actually seen it at a Drive-In). That and along with the popularity of Happy Days made life seem like a fairly easy journey ahead. Get a college degree...meet your mate...get married...have babies...retire and live happily ever after.
It was complete bullshit.
Here I am about 35 years later living a complete different life than that make-belief crap. Things change. Culture changes. Technology changes. And people die.
In those 35 years I have lost three grandparents, my father (way too fucking early), my mother-in-law (who I greatly admired), and several friends that should still be here. Life.
And of course, the reason for this blog in the first place, there's Ben.
Monday, October 26, 2015
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
I cannot believe our young man is now 15! October was very much a celebration since we were told Ben probably wouldn't make it to age 10 much less his teenage years. Yes, we've had some rough stretches over the past few months with increased seizure activity - more of them, increased duration and strength but he is extremely healthy these days (knocking on wood). I hope you enjoy his smile, his laughter, his curiosity as much as we do!
Posted by Ben and Bennie at 10/28/2014 05:43:00 PM
Tuesday, April 08, 2014
Ben is now 14! He is very healthy and thriving like a young teenage boy should. In short he is AMAZING!!! Of course y'all knew this already. As you can see our boy still loves baseball. We took this photo about two hours after his Miracle League game last weekend and now our television is now dominated by Major League Baseball or anything resembling it on ESPN. The ladies of the house are kind and sort of proud of this with the upside being I no longer have to watch "Cake Boss" or "My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding."
There is much more to blog about including our daughter being 17 and all (which includes a boyfriend), me getting job(s) that let me contribute to our budget (a little more so than the art shows), our home getting partially renovated by some incredible folks, and of course our most awesome and courageous boy!
It is good to be back and I know Ben is happy to be here as well!
Monday, March 28, 2011
After saying that I have to confess there have been many moments over the last month that I've spent in the eyes of some just "wasting time" with my kids in the evenings. That may or may not include curling up on the couch with one of them for a big drooly smoochfest, or a passionate game of whatever Wii sport Jessie chooses to kick my ass in, or just lounging between two sleepy souls with two sets of long legs entangled on my lap admiring the incredibleness that defines my two kids. 95 days ago Jessie and Ben couldn't count on that foot-rubbing guy to be anything close to sociable later on in the evenings, much less having their dad even awake or alert enough to notice the value of such profound moments - moments that some parents never will get back. Thank God I am no longer one of those.
In between those short snippets of pure joy have been visits with my two brothers - the two most responsible people for my sobriety - including a trip to Tampa, Florida for spring training baseball games; a fun day-long excursion to a NASCAR race with two of the folks financially involved with renovations to Ben's living space; watching Jessie learn and play softball; and the not-so-great annual allergy roller-coaster of March many of us endure here in the southern United States. The irony of ironies? Ben has been the healthiest of us all the past month or so!
Life is indeed good. I guess if I looked hard enough I could find something to complain about but it is just too much fun right now noticing all of the terrific stuff - the family, the friends, the music, the laughter, the smiles, the colors - surrounding me at the moment. There's an old almost forgotten trick one of my art mentors taught me a long time ago to help me break out of a rut or encourage creativity when the painting ideas have dried up. "Take out a couple of your favorite paints and put a few blobs of color on your palette," he says to me. "Close your eyes and smell the fragrance of those pigments and binders. Now put your hand on your palette making sure you get a good amount of paint between your fingers - rub 'em together like your breaking up a clod of dirt." Finally he tells me, "Now open your eyes and look at your hand. You have a choice. Are you gonna go wash your hands or do something better with all that paint stuck to your paw?"
Thursday, February 17, 2011
"Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think."
"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."
"You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late."
"Make yourself necessary to somebody."
"To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
"Take your duty, and be strong in it, as God will make you strong. The harder it is, the stronger in fact you will be. Understand, also, that the great question here is, not what you will get, but what you will become. The greatest wealth you can ever get will be in yourself. Take your burdens and troubles and losses and wrongs, if come they must and will, as your opportunity, knowing that God has girded you for greater things than these."
"It is not necessary for all men to be great in action. The greatest and sublimest power is often simple patience."
"Habits are to the soul what the veins and arteries are to the blood, the courses in which it moves."